30 March, 2017

Our Evolution

I know this reads like a repetition, but can't afford to under-emphasise the importance of what we pick up from our environment, subconsciously.

We are all like sponges, constantly learning and unlearning from our environment. We learn at home, work, with friends, through friends and gradually, sometimes imperceptibly, change over time.

But what if the changes ultimately become drastic, and one fine day, you realise you don't like parts of what you've turned into! Then is my evolution (which is supposed to be for one's better) counter productive.

What do I manage my acquired aggression, talkativeness and flamboyance. I am wondering if it has become a part of me now.

11 March, 2017

Good wishes and Blessings

Some would call me selfish...  But somehow, I associate great value to the blessings we get...

At the end of the day, it isn't the food we eat or the air we breathe that keeps us going, it is the good wishes and blessings we get... earn... deserve that take us through the day, and life in general.

So if I see my grandmother waving her hand, I ensure it firmly lands on my head :)

07 March, 2017

Smile

A wise person once said..

"Just because my eyes don't show tears, doesn't mean I don't get hurt...
Just because I come our strong, doesn't mean that nothing went wrong...
I often choose to pretend to be happy, so that I don't need to explain to people who will never understand...
Smiling has always been easier than explaining why I am sad...."

This is so true.... 

05 March, 2017

Tears

We often put ourselves through so much pain, both physical and mental, which we face firmly, without loosing our mind, unscathed... despite the pain, we don't leave teary eyed...

And then there are days, when all it takes is a tumble, and the eyes just let go...
It's like the mind just looses control...

28 February, 2017

Anti - Social Media

As a part of evolution, looks like we are on our way to becoming more social people... not that we have suddenly started bonding with our friends or interacting with our neighbours... but by simply sharing every possible event and non-event of our life on "social" media... 

Be it Facebook, which seems to have successfully found means and ways to even ruin a special holiday by checking into the resort, or Linkedin, through which Microsoft seems to have taken on Facebook, and created a timeline of its own. What was once a professional network, and again become a sequence of posts.  Whatsapp seems to be the latest addition with its segment on latest status update.

Despite creating the misnomer called being a "social" animal, as a society, we seem to be lonelier, more cut off from not just friends but even family. We claim to be extroverts, shouting out to the world, without realizing we aren't even capable of listening to ourselves most of the times. It is as if we are telling the world, with the hope that someone will respond....... 

It might be time to build back the bridges of actual communication. Meet the people you care about. Touch them. Or atleast Talk or Write to them. Don't let them feel hostage of this new age of social media (which increasingly sounds to be an oxymoron to me).

At the end of the day, they won't remember that you posted a selfie taken with them at a party. What they will remember is what you said to them.

04 February, 2017

02 February, 2017

Love and Being Loved

We were recently having an arbitrary conversation recently about who are our real loved ones, besides our parents/children. It was fairly amusing to see, as I deliberated on my choices, that my answers would have varied at different points in my life.

The change can partly be attributed to the change in environment around us, and hence the different people around us, but it also has to do with the change in our interpretation on the concept called love and being loved.

The only people who will probably steadily rank high on this list, despite time and age are our parents.

22 January, 2017

Choices and Aspirations

This is an important question... There is no right answer..I think it is each woman to her own...

Though they haven't provided the answer, Titan has managed to capture most of the thoughts growing in our minds...



We all have our thoughts on what kind of parents we'd like to be... what all we'd aspire for our child, and what in turn we achieve ourselves...

But in most cases, becoming parents (especially mothers) suddenly changes their lives where all hopes and aspirations are for the child, almost neglecting oneself... 

I wonder what I'd do when the time comes !!

21 January, 2017

Words... Play...

We utter the words...
and then bite our tongue...

We often wish to ask a question...
and then debate if it our place to pose the question...

It is not always the courage...
It is often behind the words, that often don't get uttered....

Hmmmm.....

08 January, 2017

Trials and Tribulations

The push.. The pull...
The trial.. The failure...
When the multiple unsuccessful attempts give you such a surge...
I wonder what finally getting through would feel like !

07 January, 2017

What Women Want

You don't need magical powers like Mel Gibson What Women Want
> to be able to hear what goes on in her mind. All it takes is sometime in the Ladies compartment of the Delhi Metro or Mumbai local.
You'll find women of all shapes, sizes and ages giving their immediate neighbour a piece of their mind or brooding themselves.

Eitherways, you'll know, and you won't even have a choice about it :)

10 December, 2016

Present and Future

What if we could see our future... and experience it...
would we then live our present the way we are living it now ?

Hopefully then, won't our future change ?
So did we even see our future ? 
Or was it all an illusion ?

08 December, 2016

to Mumble or to Tumble out

If there is one line from Fight Club that I feel nails the philosophy of life, it is this.

All a gun does is focus an explosion in one direction.

We think, we think more...we overthink...
but more often than not, we don't talk...
we bottle it up...

All it takes is a trigger...
for it to all come tumbling out...
and then, we suddenly start saying things...... 
which...
we never would have..

leading to an impact and a recoil...
neither of which is desirable..

It's okay to count to 10 and backwards before you start talking... but there has to be a limit to which you keep swallowing your words.


24 November, 2016

That Spot there

what would you do if a thought is just stuck in your head
like a big black stain on a white bedspread
the mindspace won't let it go, though the mind is trying
the more the effort to let go, the more it seems to spread and become firm.

I wonder...
How I can destroy the thought without destroying the mind...

15 November, 2016

Demonitization

Modi's current move of demonetization seems to be the current buzz word wherever we go.

India’s PM, Narendra Modi, surprised and even shocked many when he announced that Rs 500 and 1,000 notes would no longer be legal currency. This is some 86% of the entire cash money supply of the country.

Without getting into the political aspects (though I am sure that is a significant piece of the move), there seem to be some clear positives in this.
  1. Finally, the old cash being hoarded by the infinite households of India have finally seen the light of the day, and in some cases a bank account as well.
  2. The sudden purging of currency will bring the terrorist activities to a screeching halt.
  3. Suddenly banks are seeing a huge inflow of cash. Banks have cumulatively received around 5.5 Lakh Crore Rupees within one week.

However, there appears to be a lot of collateral damage. People are having a tough time accessing their own hard earned money which is lying in bank accounts. Needless to say it is indirect (forced) marketing for digital wallets like Paytm and Freecharge.

Are the big fish getting caught - I doubt it. I am guessing most of their money is safely stashed away in Swiss and other offshore accounts. 
Is it scaring people - yes... but is it scaring the people who should actually be scared - No.
Is there chaos - yes.

But if it even corrects ~ 20% of the population and forces them to mend their ways, is it worth it - a vehement yes.


14 November, 2016

I have a Dream

Every time I feel low or disheartened about the way things are turning out, I find pleasure in this song by Abba.... Somehow it never fails to comfort me and give me hope...




I have a dream, a song to sing
To help me cope with anything
If you see the wonder of a fairy tale
You can take the future even if you fail
I believe in angels
Something good in everything I see
I believe in angels
When I know the time is right for me
I'll cross the stream, I have a dream

I have a dream, a fantasy
To help me through reality
And my destination makes it worth the while
Pushing through the darkness still another mile
I believe in angels
Something good in everything I see
I believe in angels
When I know the time is right for me
I'll cross the stream, I have a dream
I'll cross the stream, I have a dream

I have a dream, a song to sing
To help me cope with anything
If you see the wonder of a fairy tale
You can take the future even if you fail
I believe in angels
Something good in everything I see
I believe in angels
When I know the time is right for me
I'll cross the stream, I have a dream
I'll cross the stream, I have a dream


16 October, 2016

Parties

The music fades
Glasses clink
People hobble around
Trying to make conversation

Spotted... finally
Our eyes meet
What glorious dressing
I just start to drool

All I need to do now
Is get to you first
Lest, someone will devour you
And you won't last

I pick up my plate
Not wasting time on cutlery
My hands enough
For you, my dear Biryani !!!!

15 October, 2016

Pink

Recently watched Pink.

I could go on and on about how everyone must must watch this movie, especially the current generation. Not to understand what are the do's and don'ts for nightlife for a women in Delhi. But to understand what is perceived, not just by strangers but even our peers.

It left one with a numbing feeling that anyone could be trapped in the same way. And ironically one doesn't need to be naive either. Even a all knowing street smart person can get caught. 

So what is the solution. Not just to avoid such "accidents" but also how to break the prejudices in peoples minds. Education, clearly, isn't the answer, since I myself know well educated and groom post graduates suffering the same prejudices.

The crux however remains, that each and every human being (not just males but females as well) needs to listen to and understand the meaning of these lines.

"ना " सिर्फ़ एक  शब्द  नहीं
अपने आप में  एक पूरा वाक्य हैं 
इसे किसी तर्ख , स्पष्टीकरण , explanation या व्याख्या की ज़रुरत नहीं होती 
ना का मतलब ना ही होता हैं 

02 October, 2016

An Epitaph

you were here with us 
and suddenly, we were grappling with different facts
that the life you embraced with such joy and simplity
had deserted you somehow

you smiled throughout 
whatever came your way in life
you maintained your calm
through all the pain and strife

thoroughly enjoying everything
from a Indian team cricket victory to a wedding
with you, even a coke and hot chocolate fudge
felt like a treat

having discussed everything with you
from politics to books
we are now left wondering
if we missed the opportunity to tell you in our lives, what for, you stood

though we are left trying to pick up the pieces again
we know you'd want us to enjoy life your way
so we won't cry or add misery to our life ahead
though we will always be wondering how it would've been if you hadn't left

27 August, 2016

The Myth called Equality

All of us talk about India being a progressive society. That we are catching up the "modern" world. That women are now treated equally... or atleast will be.

It is a good thought to pursue, since India is one of the few nations in the world where we have the existence of a matriarchal society, where the woman of the house has the right to property, money and business. Don't get me wrong, it is not about the money, but more a sense of power and rights, and the notional symbols attached to it by our society. Needless to say, in most cases, the woman is forced to fight for this right, despite being the care giver towards the later parts of life. And again, by woman, I don't necessarily mean daughter... it could well be the daughter-in-law who has been doing what it takes.

But what good is all this power, when the same woman is beaten, raped in wide open streets, and then is told that she is at "fault" and is tainted... ironically due a crime committed by someone else. Power has to, first, come in the mind. And it is more critical to change the mindset, not just of men, but of fellow women as well. When a women is not allowed in a temple during her menstrual cycle, it is more often a fellow women who forbids her.

But even that is not the point... because the most elementary concept of any society is Survival of the fittest... and that holds true irrespective of gender, space or time. Fitness not just of the body, but of the mind. Women will be easy prey, till they fight back. They will be taunted till they raise their voice and speak their thoughts.