22 August, 2017

Control Thy Tongue

In this age of impatience and impertinence.. where patience is treated not as a strength but as a weakness, I find myself wondering often, again and again, whether it is a good idea to spit out what is exactly on your mind, especially in a fit of rage.


But almost always, the realization dawns.. that it is... after all, better to control what comes out of our wagging tongue...  It makes perfect sense to think, and sometimes re-think what one wishes to convey.... I don't mean being secretive and not revealing anything... but the choice of words makes a world of difference...

After all, what comes out of our mouth, more often than not, comes and bites us in the ass....
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20 August, 2017

The audition for a life partner

The whole idea of finding the ideal partner seems to be a lopsided affair, especially in India. 
Though times have changed, and thankfully the judgement is not just based on whether the girl is pretty or can cook good food, or sing well.... different things like education, job, upbringing etc are all seen.... it still feels like an audition....

And the most basic aspect is rarely questioned... that the guy comes to see the girl... as if it will be a test for the girl based on her skill set, and the judgement on the boy an be simply based on his demeanor..... I am not saying all arranged marriages (and even love marriages in some cases) are decided like this... the girl IS given the freedom to decide...

But I am yet to come across a case where the boy has had to prove his mettle to the girl and her family... I wonder when that will change..... 
In these changing times when men and women compete in all spheres including the corporate world, I don't know how long it will be before this process begins to feel like a decision amongst equals...


07 August, 2017

All - Mighty

I know I have harped on this issue one too many times in the past... but nothing seems to be enough... everyone seems to have such strong and uncompromising views on the issue, that it is difficult to explain your views....

But reading this article in Livemint really struck a cord... The underlying essence of each and every religion is the same... believe in yourself and have faith in the Almighty (irrespective of how you address your Almighty) and be an honest person... the rest will just follow.... However, more than half the battles in the world seem to be fought over who the true Almighty is. People tend to associate religion with identity, and hence the lack of a firm choice on the first seems to affect the other.

The author Natasha Badhwar rightly points out
"Often a question about identity is spoken as if it is a judgement in itself. Sometimes a question sounds like an accusation. It is fired to prove that any answer you give will be deemed wrong. Others are not necessarily curious about your version of your self. The question is more like an intangible boundary they draw around their own set of beliefs. They are threatened by realities beyond the ones they have allowed themselves to imagine."

I wonder when we will grow up enough to understand that whether I choose to fast during Navratras or Ramzan or Lent will not change the person I am. If only we teach our children just the core values, and leave the rest to their intelligence and choices as they grow up, I am sure this world will be a better place.

06 August, 2017

Leave and Let Live

We keep playing around with our lives, treating our bodies like some sack that can be punched around... or more appropriately like the hit me toy, which comes back even after suffering a punch...

But unfortunately, our body is neither.... its suffers each impact or neglect and non maintenance till it finally gives in... clearly, we indirectly keep inviting what we are not prepared to accept... that there is an end, and it will come soon enough....

So what happens in the end... will we rise up in smoke, or become a part of the earth once again.... What if we have an opportunity to help someone out... is it such a bad idea ?

Think about it