02 August, 2018

Submissive Aggression

Are you an aggressive person ?!?

So what happens when you suddenly start behaving like a submissive person...
Do you appear to be a stranger to yourself  (pun intended)... 
Or do you just enjoy the indecisive follow the leader kind of approach.

More importantly.. is it sustainable ?

12 July, 2018

The Minority Report

In the Corporate world, I have learnt the hard way that the more you are conscious about your/your team's gender, the more people try and take you for a ride.

There is no limit to all the nonsense...
You try to be careful, and you are told you are distant...
You avoid social gatherings, only to be reprimanded that you are anti social...

I am often left wondering if the people would give the same responses if the person on the other side was a male. Conveniently, since a majority of most workplaces are filled with men and sprinkled with women, even a random poll would have unfavourable results.

So I have finally concluded that I don't care.. Don't care about what others think.. or what they 'expect' from the girl next door, or rather at the next desk.... 


Of course I am not worried about intimidating men. 
The type of man who will be intimidated by me is exactly the type of man I have no interest in.  
~ Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie 

01 July, 2018

Revenue versus Welfare

I understand a person's urge to do certain things.. to scratch and itch.. to click fingers.... to crack their knuckles... I get all that.. But I somehow can't seem to get over this urge hoards of people seem to have to grab a drink on Friday night to unwind.... Don't get me wrong, I am not against the idea of relaxing with friends over food and drinks.. but the primary objective always remains catching up... catching up isn't the excuse !

But now, Friday nights have been presenting a new nightmare... it is the jam close to our place thanks to a new 'state owned' liquor shop.... Every Friday, the place crowds up like there is no tomorrow... needless to say the joy in parking their vehicles inorder to successfully block all traffic....

I wonder what is the basis of these licenses the government doles out licenses for such liquor stores. There are already 3 such stores in a 2 km radius, and this is not including the 'sophisticated' wine selling stores... I don't think we have pharmacies as equally spaces out as these liquor stores. 

For obvious state revenue related decisions, I am guessing the States provide liquor licenses to cover every 1 km radius of the city, be it posh areas or the outskirts, so that no area remains untouched by the reach of such shops.I only wish such diligence was shown by the state to ensure availability of hospitals and medicines in every nook and cover of the state. 

If only state's welfare was gauged not just through revenue but also in reach of such essential services like medication. Afterall, its all about the money, Honey !

17 June, 2018

...

When your mind goes blank
But your feet won't stop
Churning words in your head
which won't tumble out

Angry thoughts lead on
to frustrated actions
The hurt in your head
just suddenly hurls out

Instantaneously frustration 
becomes guilt
The words lashed out
were not meant to hit

Yet no words will add up now
As the demon in your head has taken a new form.

28 May, 2018

Dealing with Life's Deal

One verdict.. and your world turns upside down..
Suddenly, your plans seem to be a far away thought.. 
all focus shifts to the immediate obstacle..

But for someone who always believed and going with the flow... with a kind of preconceived notion that whatever happens, happens for the best... I am beginning to wonder if this attitude lacks the aggression and ferocity needed to face challenges.....

Maybe one rethinks everything once in a while..
Call it catharsis... call it review & renewal...
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23 May, 2018

Self Appraisal

What would you do if someone asked you to appraise yourself.... will you do what the word is trying to say i.e. ap'praise' yourself (considering your next years salary, and in some cases the job, is dependent on it !) or will you take a step back and actually do what it takes.

It is very easy to say that what we write is genuinely what we believe has been our contribution... but more often than not (unless we are delusional), we know the truth about where we stand...

This is not just true about our professional lives but also our personal lives...

So how do we do an honest one, atleast in our personal spaces... because it doesn't seem easy to take a step back and look at the situation and how one is faring....

Mirror mirror on the wall... who is the fairest of us all !

29 April, 2018

Word Play

Words are a very powerful tool, but how the words are used makes them even more powerful... Poetry and Prose are the perfect example.. the shorter the better....

So when I recently read these lines in Colson Whitehead's Underground Railroad, they struck a chord...

... a visitation of a magnificent presence, a seeker awaiting a message. A conservation between an acorn, a sapling, and a powerful oak.... Poems are too close to prayer, rousing regrettable passions. Waiting for God to rescue you when it was up to you. Poetry and prayer put ideas in people's heads that got them killed, distracting them from the ruthless mechanism of the world....

Though there is a wide body of work by many poets, including famous Bards and Barons, but this Lady is one of the best.

Fame is a fickle food
Upon a shifting plate
Whose table once a
Guest but not
The second time is set
Whose crumbs the crows inspect
And with ironic caw
Flap past it to the
Farmer’s corn
Men eat of it and die

~ Emily Dickinson