16 October, 2016


The music fades
Glasses clink
People hobble around
Trying to make conversation

Spotted... finally
Our eyes meet
What glorious dressing
I just start to drool

All I need to do now
Is get to you first
Lest, someone will devour you
And you won't last

I pick up my plate
Not wasting time on cutlery
My hands enough
For you, my dear Biryani !!!!

15 October, 2016


Recently watched Pink.

I could go on and on about how everyone must must watch this movie, especially the current generation. Not to understand what are the do's and don'ts for nightlife for a women in Delhi. But to understand what is perceived, not just by strangers but even our peers.

It left one with a numbing feeling that anyone could be trapped in the same way. And ironically one doesn't need to be naive either. Even a all knowing street smart person can get caught. 

So what is the solution. Not just to avoid such "accidents" but also how to break the prejudices in peoples minds. Education, clearly, isn't the answer, since I myself know well educated and groom post graduates suffering the same prejudices.

The crux however remains, that each and every human being (not just males but females as well) needs to listen to and understand the meaning of these lines.

"ना " सिर्फ़ एक  शब्द  नहीं
अपने आप में  एक पूरा वाक्य हैं 
इसे किसी तर्ख , स्पष्टीकरण , explanation या व्याख्या की ज़रुरत नहीं होती 
ना का मतलब ना ही होता हैं 

02 October, 2016

An Epitaph

you were here with us 
and suddenly, we were grappling with different facts
that the life you embraced with such joy and simplity
had deserted you somehow

you smiled throughout 
whatever came your way in life
you maintained your calm
through all the pain and strife

thoroughly enjoying everything
from a Indian team cricket victory to a wedding
with you, even a coke and hot chocolate fudge
felt like a treat

having discussed everything with you
from politics to books
we are now left wondering
if we missed the opportunity to tell you in our lives, what for, you stood

though we are left trying to pick up the pieces again
we know you'd want us to enjoy life your way
so we won't cry or add misery to our life ahead
though we will always be wondering how it would've been if you hadn't left

27 August, 2016

The Myth called Equality

All of us talk about India being a progressive society. That we are catching up the "modern" world. That women are now treated equally... or atleast will be.

It is a good thought to pursue, since India is one of the few nations in the world where we have the existence of a matriarchal society, where the woman of the house has the right to property, money and business. Don't get me wrong, it is not about the money, but more a sense of power and rights, and the notional symbols attached to it by our society. Needless to say, in most cases, the woman is forced to fight for this right, despite being the care giver towards the later parts of life. And again, by woman, I don't necessarily mean daughter... it could well be the daughter-in-law who has been doing what it takes.

But what good is all this power, when the same woman is beaten, raped in wide open streets, and then is told that she is at "fault" and is tainted... ironically due a crime committed by someone else. Power has to, first, come in the mind. And it is more critical to change the mindset, not just of men, but of fellow women as well. When a women is not allowed in a temple during her menstrual cycle, it is more often a fellow women who forbids her.

But even that is not the point... because the most elementary concept of any society is Survival of the fittest... and that holds true irrespective of gender, space or time. Fitness not just of the body, but of the mind. Women will be easy prey, till they fight back. They will be taunted till they raise their voice and speak their thoughts.

14 August, 2016

Patriotism versus Nationalism

Ever since BJP has come to power in the centre, there seems to be too much discussion by the paparazzi and the Fourth estate about how the decisions are swinging from the center to the right... progressively towards the extreme right.

This recent article by Gurcharan Das in The Sunday Times on Patriotism versus Nationalism brings back the same thoughts. 
Strangely, if you look at the dictionary meanings to the two words, they seem almost identical... both referring to a patriotic feeling.

1.patriotic feeling, principles, or efforts.
"an early consciousness of nationalism and pride"

1.the quality of being patriotic; vigorous support for one's country.

"a highly decorated officer of unquestionable integrity and patriotism"

Then why is it that the media seems to be equating nationalism with jingoism, and patriotism with something more controlled. Both emotions are strong, referring to our love for our country. Extremism exists in all emotions, and none are justified, but that doesn't justify the usage of the words to our convenience.

Though I agree with the intent of what Gurcharan Das has to say, I somehow disagree with the use of the words chosen.

25 July, 2016

Explain Yourself !

We think a lot... assess... analyse...
Try to be logical in our approach towards everything...

Because we see great merit in logic...
We assume that we need to give everyone an explanation...
Even to those who don't deserve one...
Is it really needed...

Why should I have to explain every action and thought...
To justify that there is no malign intended...

Somehow acting on things is not as tiring as giving explanations for what has been done... 

The only correct actions are those that demand no explanation and no apology. 
~ Red Auerbach

24 July, 2016

Our Life Ahead

We look ahead in life... we plan for what we want it to be like...
In hope that it will all work out...
In confidence that we would be able to control the way things pan out...

But what we are merely doing is hedging our risks.... 
Because we don't seem to have control at all... 

On when it is time to come... and when it is that you drop dead...

So play all you want... Eat what you like...
Live the moment...
Dance on the streets....

Because you never realize this is the last.... till it is too late..