15 October, 2017

Discussions and Decisions

We work in groups... teams...
And each person wants to add value to the discussion.. to every decision...
till there comes a point where the point is lost..
And it all seems in vain...


The more people spoke, the closer to consensus every decision came, and the less responsibility anyone had.

~ Terry Pratchett, Thief of Time

07 October, 2017

That drop when it falls...

I don't know why I started crying...
I worse still, I don't know why the tears aren't stopping... 
It's not like I've not endured worse and put up with it.. Or atop that drop from coming out of the corner of my eye....

Maybe the floodgates just got crashed, and now nothing is stopping them...
I guess it'll take its time to dry up...

But while it lasts, let it all get out...
So that nothing remains..
And everything can start afresh..

PS: Bottle up stuff, and the odds are that it'd present itself as anger or tears or both !

14 September, 2017

...

I'll not run anyone's life – nor let anyone run mine. 
I will not rule nor be ruled. 
I will not be a master nor a slave. 
I will not sacrifice myself to anyone – nor sacrifice anyone to myself. 

~ Ayn Rand
Textbook of Americanism

29 August, 2017

70 years of Independence, yet miles to go before we sleep

The recent Dera incident has made one thing very clear. Irrespective of what the underlying issue, be it Rape or simply reservation for few people, our instant reaction is violence and uncontrollable outburst. I am still unable to comprehend how any follower of the "god" men can react in such a way to support a rapist.... I wonder if even one-tenth of them with stand in arms with the one who has been raped. We are just pathetic.

But that's not the core issue.... why most of these people have such staunch die-hard followers is because in some other twisted ways, they have worked for the society... be it free hospitals or education or just basic meals. 
Don't get me wrong, I absolutely hate the guts of these people who claim to work for the society's betterment and behind curtains commit such sins.... 
But the point still remains... for someone who can't afford a square meal a day, if someone ensures clean food or proper medication or a roof to stay, the person will be given a demi-god status.

The absolute basics, roti - kapda - makaan, which the state should have ensured for each citizen by now, is still a far away dream even after 70 years of Independence. Till the state steps up and provides these essentials, there will always be someone/ some institution which misuses this weakness of the people to derive their end purpose.

22 August, 2017

Control Thy Tongue

In this age of impatience and impertinence.. where patience is treated not as a strength but as a weakness, I find myself wondering often, again and again, whether it is a good idea to spit out what is exactly on your mind, especially in a fit of rage.


But almost always, the realization dawns.. that it is... after all, better to control what comes out of our wagging tongue...  It makes perfect sense to think, and sometimes re-think what one wishes to convey.... I don't mean being secretive and not revealing anything... but the choice of words makes a world of difference...

After all, what comes out of our mouth, more often than not, comes and bites us in the ass....
Graphic Credits: Pinterest


20 August, 2017

The audition for a life partner

The whole idea of finding the ideal partner seems to be a lopsided affair, especially in India. 
Though times have changed, and thankfully the judgement is not just based on whether the girl is pretty or can cook good food, or sing well.... different things like education, job, upbringing etc are all seen.... it still feels like an audition....

And the most basic aspect is rarely questioned... that the guy comes to see the girl... as if it will be a test for the girl based on her skill set, and the judgement on the boy an be simply based on his demeanor..... I am not saying all arranged marriages (and even love marriages in some cases) are decided like this... the girl IS given the freedom to decide...

But I am yet to come across a case where the boy has had to prove his mettle to the girl and her family... I wonder when that will change..... 
In these changing times when men and women compete in all spheres including the corporate world, I don't know how long it will be before this process begins to feel like a decision amongst equals...


07 August, 2017

All - Mighty

I know I have harped on this issue one too many times in the past... but nothing seems to be enough... everyone seems to have such strong and uncompromising views on the issue, that it is difficult to explain your views....

But reading this article in Livemint really struck a cord... The underlying essence of each and every religion is the same... believe in yourself and have faith in the Almighty (irrespective of how you address your Almighty) and be an honest person... the rest will just follow.... However, more than half the battles in the world seem to be fought over who the true Almighty is. People tend to associate religion with identity, and hence the lack of a firm choice on the first seems to affect the other.

The author Natasha Badhwar rightly points out
"Often a question about identity is spoken as if it is a judgement in itself. Sometimes a question sounds like an accusation. It is fired to prove that any answer you give will be deemed wrong. Others are not necessarily curious about your version of your self. The question is more like an intangible boundary they draw around their own set of beliefs. They are threatened by realities beyond the ones they have allowed themselves to imagine."

I wonder when we will grow up enough to understand that whether I choose to fast during Navratras or Ramzan or Lent will not change the person I am. If only we teach our children just the core values, and leave the rest to their intelligence and choices as they grow up, I am sure this world will be a better place.