How do you tell a 9 year old that her father is no more.... As adults, most of us grapple with the thought and logic (if any) behind a dear one leaving us... and I was suddenly left wondering what to say to this 9 year old !!! For the first time in a long time, I was left speechless, not because I didn't want to say anything, but simply because I didn't know what to say.. Does it make sense if I tell you that all of a sudden, I became the child with a rubbery tongue, and the 9 year old had turned into the adult, trying to respond sensibly and sensitively. I was stumped by the questions thrown at me. I felt so insufficient in my responses, but the child took even that in her stride. The strength of character in facing not just the reality but also fighting each dilemma in her own sweet way left me in deep thought for some time to come. I hope no one has to face what this child did... PS: I was faced with this recently when a close friend lost her husband, and I was told ...
what about all the stuff you do that's best for your loved ones or simply because they wish or ask for us to do so, even If it hurts your gut?
ReplyDeleteMay be guilt can make up for some of the hurting, but then what gives?
"There is a luxury in self-reproach. When we blame ourselves, we feel that no one else has a right to blame us. It is the confession, not the priest, that gives us absolution."
ReplyDelete~ Oscar Wilde
I rest my case :)
Well, human nature is more devious and misleading the more you try to understand and master over it rather than just to experience it by putting yourself in everybody Else's shoes.. Rest Oscar Wilde is bang on. Case closed, unanimously :)
ReplyDeleteHaha... true..
Deleteshort but true!
ReplyDeleteDo you speak spanish?
yes it is
DeleteBella, I don't speak spanish just yet.. but always have wanted to.
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