Dependence - Independence

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In the hope of helping them, we take their independence away...
With the wish of making them feel safer, we hold their hand all the way...
Little to we realize that we are actually stifling them...
Not letting them do what they want, the way they want...

 Though the article in HT i read yesterday, by Namita Bhandare talks about the other end of the spectrum, the emotions are the same...

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