How do you tell a 9 year old that her father is no more.... As adults, most of us grapple with the thought and logic (if any) behind a dear one leaving us... and I was suddenly left wondering what to say to this 9 year old !!! For the first time in a long time, I was left speechless, not because I didn't want to say anything, but simply because I didn't know what to say.. Does it make sense if I tell you that all of a sudden, I became the child with a rubbery tongue, and the 9 year old had turned into the adult, trying to respond sensibly and sensitively. I was stumped by the questions thrown at me. I felt so insufficient in my responses, but the child took even that in her stride. The strength of character in facing not just the reality but also fighting each dilemma in her own sweet way left me in deep thought for some time to come. I hope no one has to face what this child did... PS: I was faced with this recently when a close friend lost her husband, and I was told ...
All of insecurity is nothing more than a half-baked doubt.
ReplyDeleteDoubt thrives on/in silence. All that needs to be done is breaking it.
@your comment on 'stolen' -
That is the paradoxical beauty of time, that for every beautiful, brand new moment that dissolves into your presence, there are many more beautiful ones being stolen in your absence.
Maybe it is our passivity, or a testament to its undeniably seductive beauty, that we silently endure this furtive theft of memory, this one dimensionality of time.
Sometimes saying things too loudly is as bad as staying mum on an issue...
ReplyDeleteI guess the debate of doubt & insecurity is like the chicken & the egg problem...
'Sometimes'. That's the key. The challenge lies in identifying the 'times' that constitute those 'sometimes'.
ReplyDelete@ dheeraj: very true, but in case of being unable to identify the situation.. I'd rather give it the benifit of doubt ;)
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