04 February, 2017

02 February, 2017

Love and Being Loved

We were recently having an arbitrary conversation recently about who are our real loved ones, besides our parents/children. It was fairly amusing to see, as I deliberated on my choices, that my answers would have varied at different points in my life.

The change can partly be attributed to the change in environment around us, and hence the different people around us, but it also has to do with the change in our interpretation on the concept called love and being loved.

The only people who will probably steadily rank high on this list, despite time and age are our parents.

22 January, 2017

Choices and Aspirations

This is an important question... There is no right answer..I think it is each woman to her own...

Though they haven't provided the answer, Titan has managed to capture most of the thoughts growing in our minds...



We all have our thoughts on what kind of parents we'd like to be... what all we'd aspire for our child, and what in turn we achieve ourselves...

But in most cases, becoming parents (especially mothers) suddenly changes their lives where all hopes and aspirations are for the child, almost neglecting oneself... 

I wonder what I'd do when the time comes !!

21 January, 2017

Words... Play...

We utter the words...
and then bite our tongue...

We often wish to ask a question...
and then debate if it our place to pose the question...

It is not always the courage...
It is often behind the words, that often don't get uttered....

Hmmmm.....

08 January, 2017

Trials and Tribulations

The push.. The pull...
The trial.. The failure...
When the multiple unsuccessful attempts give you such a surge...
I wonder what finally getting through would feel like !

07 January, 2017

What Women Want

You don't need magical powers like Mel Gibson What Women Want
> to be able to hear what goes on in her mind. All it takes is sometime in the Ladies compartment of the Delhi Metro or Mumbai local.
You'll find women of all shapes, sizes and ages giving their immediate neighbour a piece of their mind or brooding themselves.

Eitherways, you'll know, and you won't even have a choice about it :)

10 December, 2016

Present and Future

What if we could see our future... and experience it...
would we then live our present the way we are living it now ?

Hopefully then, won't our future change ?
So did we even see our future ? 
Or was it all an illusion ?

08 December, 2016

to Mumble or to Tumble out

If there is one line from Fight Club that I feel nails the philosophy of life, it is this.

All a gun does is focus an explosion in one direction.

We think, we think more...we overthink...
but more often than not, we don't talk...
we bottle it up...

All it takes is a trigger...
for it to all come tumbling out...
and then, we suddenly start saying things...... 
which...
we never would have..

leading to an impact and a recoil...
neither of which is desirable..

It's okay to count to 10 and backwards before you start talking... but there has to be a limit to which you keep swallowing your words.


24 November, 2016

That Spot there

what would you do if a thought is just stuck in your head
like a big black stain on a white bedspread
the mindspace won't let it go, though the mind is trying
the more the effort to let go, the more it seems to spread and become firm.

I wonder...
How I can destroy the thought without destroying the mind...

15 November, 2016

Demonitization

Modi's current move of demonetization seems to be the current buzz word wherever we go.

India’s PM, Narendra Modi, surprised and even shocked many when he announced that Rs 500 and 1,000 notes would no longer be legal currency. This is some 86% of the entire cash money supply of the country.

Without getting into the political aspects (though I am sure that is a significant piece of the move), there seem to be some clear positives in this.
  1. Finally, the old cash being hoarded by the infinite households of India have finally seen the light of the day, and in some cases a bank account as well.
  2. The sudden purging of currency will bring the terrorist activities to a screeching halt.
  3. Suddenly banks are seeing a huge inflow of cash. Banks have cumulatively received around 5.5 Lakh Crore Rupees within one week.

However, there appears to be a lot of collateral damage. People are having a tough time accessing their own hard earned money which is lying in bank accounts. Needless to say it is indirect (forced) marketing for digital wallets like Paytm and Freecharge.

Are the big fish getting caught - I doubt it. I am guessing most of their money is safely stashed away in Swiss and other offshore accounts. 
Is it scaring people - yes... but is it scaring the people who should actually be scared - No.
Is there chaos - yes.

But if it even corrects ~ 20% of the population and forces them to mend their ways, is it worth it - a vehement yes.


14 November, 2016

I have a Dream

Every time I feel low or disheartened about the way things are turning out, I find pleasure in this song by Abba.... Somehow it never fails to comfort me and give me hope...




I have a dream, a song to sing
To help me cope with anything
If you see the wonder of a fairy tale
You can take the future even if you fail
I believe in angels
Something good in everything I see
I believe in angels
When I know the time is right for me
I'll cross the stream, I have a dream

I have a dream, a fantasy
To help me through reality
And my destination makes it worth the while
Pushing through the darkness still another mile
I believe in angels
Something good in everything I see
I believe in angels
When I know the time is right for me
I'll cross the stream, I have a dream
I'll cross the stream, I have a dream

I have a dream, a song to sing
To help me cope with anything
If you see the wonder of a fairy tale
You can take the future even if you fail
I believe in angels
Something good in everything I see
I believe in angels
When I know the time is right for me
I'll cross the stream, I have a dream
I'll cross the stream, I have a dream


16 October, 2016

Parties

The music fades
Glasses clink
People hobble around
Trying to make conversation

Spotted... finally
Our eyes meet
What glorious dressing
I just start to drool

All I need to do now
Is get to you first
Lest, someone will devour you
And you won't last

I pick up my plate
Not wasting time on cutlery
My hands enough
For you, my dear Biryani !!!!

15 October, 2016

Pink

Recently watched Pink.

I could go on and on about how everyone must must watch this movie, especially the current generation. Not to understand what are the do's and don'ts for nightlife for a women in Delhi. But to understand what is perceived, not just by strangers but even our peers.

It left one with a numbing feeling that anyone could be trapped in the same way. And ironically one doesn't need to be naive either. Even a all knowing street smart person can get caught. 

So what is the solution. Not just to avoid such "accidents" but also how to break the prejudices in peoples minds. Education, clearly, isn't the answer, since I myself know well educated and groom post graduates suffering the same prejudices.

The crux however remains, that each and every human being (not just males but females as well) needs to listen to and understand the meaning of these lines.

"ना " सिर्फ़ एक  शब्द  नहीं
अपने आप में  एक पूरा वाक्य हैं 
इसे किसी तर्ख , स्पष्टीकरण , explanation या व्याख्या की ज़रुरत नहीं होती 
ना का मतलब ना ही होता हैं 

02 October, 2016

An Epitaph

you were here with us 
and suddenly, we were grappling with different facts
that the life you embraced with such joy and simplity
had deserted you somehow

you smiled throughout 
whatever came your way in life
you maintained your calm
through all the pain and strife

thoroughly enjoying everything
from a Indian team cricket victory to a wedding
with you, even a coke and hot chocolate fudge
felt like a treat

having discussed everything with you
from politics to books
we are now left wondering
if we missed the opportunity to tell you in our lives, what for, you stood

though we are left trying to pick up the pieces again
we know you'd want us to enjoy life your way
so we won't cry or add misery to our life ahead
though we will always be wondering how it would've been if you hadn't left

27 August, 2016

The Myth called Equality

All of us talk about India being a progressive society. That we are catching up the "modern" world. That women are now treated equally... or atleast will be.

It is a good thought to pursue, since India is one of the few nations in the world where we have the existence of a matriarchal society, where the woman of the house has the right to property, money and business. Don't get me wrong, it is not about the money, but more a sense of power and rights, and the notional symbols attached to it by our society. Needless to say, in most cases, the woman is forced to fight for this right, despite being the care giver towards the later parts of life. And again, by woman, I don't necessarily mean daughter... it could well be the daughter-in-law who has been doing what it takes.

But what good is all this power, when the same woman is beaten, raped in wide open streets, and then is told that she is at "fault" and is tainted... ironically due a crime committed by someone else. Power has to, first, come in the mind. And it is more critical to change the mindset, not just of men, but of fellow women as well. When a women is not allowed in a temple during her menstrual cycle, it is more often a fellow women who forbids her.

But even that is not the point... because the most elementary concept of any society is Survival of the fittest... and that holds true irrespective of gender, space or time. Fitness not just of the body, but of the mind. Women will be easy prey, till they fight back. They will be taunted till they raise their voice and speak their thoughts.

14 August, 2016

Patriotism versus Nationalism

Ever since BJP has come to power in the centre, there seems to be too much discussion by the paparazzi and the Fourth estate about how the decisions are swinging from the center to the right... progressively towards the extreme right.

This recent article by Gurcharan Das in The Sunday Times on Patriotism versus Nationalism brings back the same thoughts. 
Strangely, if you look at the dictionary meanings to the two words, they seem almost identical... both referring to a patriotic feeling.

nationalism.
[ˈnaʃ(ə)n(ə)lɪz(ə)m]
NOUN
1.patriotic feeling, principles, or efforts.
"an early consciousness of nationalism and pride"

patriotism.
[ˈpeɪtrɪətɪz(ə)m]
NOUN
1.the quality of being patriotic; vigorous support for one's country.

"a highly decorated officer of unquestionable integrity and patriotism"

Then why is it that the media seems to be equating nationalism with jingoism, and patriotism with something more controlled. Both emotions are strong, referring to our love for our country. Extremism exists in all emotions, and none are justified, but that doesn't justify the usage of the words to our convenience.

Though I agree with the intent of what Gurcharan Das has to say, I somehow disagree with the use of the words chosen.

25 July, 2016

Explain Yourself !

We think a lot... assess... analyse...
Try to be logical in our approach towards everything...

Because we see great merit in logic...
We assume that we need to give everyone an explanation...
Even to those who don't deserve one...
Is it really needed...

Why should I have to explain every action and thought...
To justify that there is no malign intended...

Somehow acting on things is not as tiring as giving explanations for what has been done... 


The only correct actions are those that demand no explanation and no apology. 
~ Red Auerbach

24 July, 2016

Our Life Ahead

We look ahead in life... we plan for what we want it to be like...
In hope that it will all work out...
In confidence that we would be able to control the way things pan out...

But what we are merely doing is hedging our risks.... 
Because we don't seem to have control at all... 

On when it is time to come... and when it is that you drop dead...

So play all you want... Eat what you like...
Live the moment...
Dance on the streets....

Because you never realize this is the last.... till it is too late..

22 June, 2016

To be and not be

I aspired for you... I craved for you... I wished you were with me at all times.. to consume... to enjoy.... and now that you are finally here... I wonder there isn't too much of you in my life...

From longing... to seeking... to finding.. to experiencing.... too getting fed-up..... I wonder how the whole cycle suddenly turns around and stares you in the face suddenly....

10 June, 2016

Patterns in Life

Most people try and explain what life is with expressions, images... but I am yet to come across a more appropriate description... Its actually a part of The Curious Incident of the dog in the Night Time by Mark Haddon.

Prime numbers is what is left when you take all the patterns away. Prime numbers are a lot like life, They are very logical, but you can never work out the rules, even if you spend all your time thinking about this.

The most random events seem to occur in our lives... and yet, in retrospect.. it all falls into place... there seems to be a pattern and a reason... except it alludes us in the present.