16 October, 2016

Parties

The music fades
Glasses clink
People hobble around
Trying to make conversation

Spotted... finally
Our eyes meet
What glorious dressing
I just start to drool

All I need to do now
Is get to you first
Lest, someone will devour you
And you won't last

I pick up my plate
Not wasting time on cutlery
My hands enough
For you, my dear Biryani !!!!

15 October, 2016

Pink

Recently watched Pink.

I could go on and on about how everyone must must watch this movie, especially the current generation. Not to understand what are the do's and don'ts for nightlife for a women in Delhi. But to understand what is perceived, not just by strangers but even our peers.

It left one with a numbing feeling that anyone could be trapped in the same way. And ironically one doesn't need to be naive either. Even a all knowing street smart person can get caught. 

So what is the solution. Not just to avoid such "accidents" but also how to break the prejudices in peoples minds. Education, clearly, isn't the answer, since I myself know well educated and groom post graduates suffering the same prejudices.

The crux however remains, that each and every human being (not just males but females as well) needs to listen to and understand the meaning of these lines.

"ना " सिर्फ़ एक  शब्द  नहीं
अपने आप में  एक पूरा वाक्य हैं 
इसे किसी तर्ख , स्पष्टीकरण , explanation या व्याख्या की ज़रुरत नहीं होती 
ना का मतलब ना ही होता हैं 

02 October, 2016

An Epitaph

you were here with us 
and suddenly, we were grappling with different facts
that the life you embraced with such joy and simplity
had deserted you somehow

you smiled throughout 
whatever came your way in life
you maintained your calm
through all the pain and strife

thoroughly enjoying everything
from a Indian team cricket victory to a wedding
with you, even a coke and hot chocolate fudge
felt like a treat

having discussed everything with you
from politics to books
we are now left wondering
if we missed the opportunity to tell you in our lives, what for, you stood

though we are left trying to pick up the pieces again
we know you'd want us to enjoy life your way
so we won't cry or add misery to our life ahead
though we will always be wondering how it would've been if you hadn't left

27 August, 2016

The Myth called Equality

All of us talk about India being a progressive society. That we are catching up the "modern" world. That women are now treated equally... or atleast will be.

It is a good thought to pursue, since India is one of the few nations in the world where we have the existence of a matriarchal society, where the woman of the house has the right to property, money and business. Don't get me wrong, it is not about the money, but more a sense of power and rights, and the notional symbols attached to it by our society. Needless to say, in most cases, the woman is forced to fight for this right, despite being the care giver towards the later parts of life. And again, by woman, I don't necessarily mean daughter... it could well be the daughter-in-law who has been doing what it takes.

But what good is all this power, when the same woman is beaten, raped in wide open streets, and then is told that she is at "fault" and is tainted... ironically due a crime committed by someone else. Power has to, first, come in the mind. And it is more critical to change the mindset, not just of men, but of fellow women as well. When a women is not allowed in a temple during her menstrual cycle, it is more often a fellow women who forbids her.

But even that is not the point... because the most elementary concept of any society is Survival of the fittest... and that holds true irrespective of gender, space or time. Fitness not just of the body, but of the mind. Women will be easy prey, till they fight back. They will be taunted till they raise their voice and speak their thoughts.

14 August, 2016

Patriotism versus Nationalism

Ever since BJP has come to power in the centre, there seems to be too much discussion by the paparazzi and the Fourth estate about how the decisions are swinging from the center to the right... progressively towards the extreme right.

This recent article by Gurcharan Das in The Sunday Times on Patriotism versus Nationalism brings back the same thoughts. 
Strangely, if you look at the dictionary meanings to the two words, they seem almost identical... both referring to a patriotic feeling.

nationalism.
[ˈnaʃ(ə)n(ə)lɪz(ə)m]
NOUN
1.patriotic feeling, principles, or efforts.
"an early consciousness of nationalism and pride"

patriotism.
[ˈpeɪtrɪətɪz(ə)m]
NOUN
1.the quality of being patriotic; vigorous support for one's country.

"a highly decorated officer of unquestionable integrity and patriotism"

Then why is it that the media seems to be equating nationalism with jingoism, and patriotism with something more controlled. Both emotions are strong, referring to our love for our country. Extremism exists in all emotions, and none are justified, but that doesn't justify the usage of the words to our convenience.

Though I agree with the intent of what Gurcharan Das has to say, I somehow disagree with the use of the words chosen.

25 July, 2016

Explain Yourself !

We think a lot... assess... analyse...
Try to be logical in our approach towards everything...

Because we see great merit in logic...
We assume that we need to give everyone an explanation...
Even to those who don't deserve one...
Is it really needed...

Why should I have to explain every action and thought...
To justify that there is no malign intended...

Somehow acting on things is not as tiring as giving explanations for what has been done... 


The only correct actions are those that demand no explanation and no apology. 
~ Red Auerbach

24 July, 2016

Our Life Ahead

We look ahead in life... we plan for what we want it to be like...
In hope that it will all work out...
In confidence that we would be able to control the way things pan out...

But what we are merely doing is hedging our risks.... 
Because we don't seem to have control at all... 

On when it is time to come... and when it is that you drop dead...

So play all you want... Eat what you like...
Live the moment...
Dance on the streets....

Because you never realize this is the last.... till it is too late..

22 June, 2016

To be and not be

I aspired for you... I craved for you... I wished you were with me at all times.. to consume... to enjoy.... and now that you are finally here... I wonder there isn't too much of you in my life...

From longing... to seeking... to finding.. to experiencing.... too getting fed-up..... I wonder how the whole cycle suddenly turns around and stares you in the face suddenly....

10 June, 2016

Patterns in Life

Most people try and explain what life is with expressions, images... but I am yet to come across a more appropriate description... Its actually a part of The Curious Incident of the dog in the Night Time by Mark Haddon.

Prime numbers is what is left when you take all the patterns away. Prime numbers are a lot like life, They are very logical, but you can never work out the rules, even if you spend all your time thinking about this.

The most random events seem to occur in our lives... and yet, in retrospect.. it all falls into place... there seems to be a pattern and a reason... except it alludes us in the present.

28 May, 2016

Point of View

Everything has a interpretation.. What we do, what we say...

And the interpretation is not subject to what one does or days, but what the viewer interprets of the situation.... What adds up to the whole situation is the preconceived notions...

So what happens if we get misinterpreted... or lets just say someone provides an alternate interpretation... So how do we say if the water is flowing upstream or is it all downhill from there :)







22 May, 2016

Time and Tide teaches all of us

Hope is a funny thing...
There are times when we don't think or imagine that something will happen... that here might be a change... and then suddenly, there is a flash,,, 
All of a sudden, all the variables involved in the equation change...

Things appear in a new light... you see people in a new light....
and suddenly, it doesn't seem all that grim...

Situations change... and so do people... or atleast our outlook towards them...
So do we change with time... or does time change us ?

22 April, 2016

The Background Score

We all like being the front runner... or atleast a part of the action... right in the middle of the hustle bustle... hoping that we wouldn't miss out on anything...
That is natural tendency...

So when you end up taking the backseat... fading into the background... in view of the bigger picture... it is a tough decision to make... the only hope being this decision will not be in vain, and will not be forgotten...

But what hurts the most, is that those who silently fade into the background without making too much of noise, are often forgotten a little too soon... in that they are not given credit for what is due...

Though they are not the Hero of the show, they still are as much an essential part of the crew....

If only people would understand that most things are team work... and if someone is able to be a Hero is because someone decided to work in the shadows towards the same thing.

16 April, 2016

That Nagging Feeling

It is difficult to explain...
We spend so much time with each other... we are part of each others growing up...
We grow up.. get busy... run the rat race...
Suddenly, one fine day, we realize that it is not the same...

Unsure whether it is people have moved, or whether we have.. whether we disappeared in their daily landscape.. or they did in ours...

But this feeling..... this nagging feeling.... hmmmmm.....

06 April, 2016

Needs with Moods

Holidays are therapeutic... They calm you down... they ease out the pace of our fast moving life and heart.. and give you time to think and assess, about what we are actually doing with it..

That been said, having the right company is equally important...
If my holiday was because I was not satisfied with what I was getting out of life and needed to find an answer, the only company I'd need is myself, with probably a good book or a diary...

But the same company could be a recipe for disaster if I was depressed and dissatisfied with the way my life was turning out..

Same person... different hues...

03 April, 2016

Man and Machine

It's a generation disease.. more pertinent to our generation and the next.... our  multiple attempts to replace the human touch with machines..

This is partly caused by our hurried lives... due to which we often loose the plot as to what is the reason we are running this race... but it is also about our superiority complex... from hand drawn rikshaws to cars... hand woven cloth to mills... workers in factories to robots...
we call it automation and efficiency... which is true...

But is it really effective in all cases...
I think this video says it all.... 



13 March, 2016

Intolerance

Couldn't resist sharing what Barkha Dutt recently said on the National Debate 2016 organized by The Telegraph in Kolkatta on Tolerance and Intolerance.

She was spot on...


Exactly what I was trying to say in News Today

12 March, 2016

Evolution with Time

As children, we epitomize our parents... but at the back of our head we also sort out their habits subconsciously into the ones you wish you'd get, and those you wouldn't want to inculcate.

Imagine my surprise when, in a recent discussion with my parents, I realized that I had subconsciously started doing some of the things in exactly the way they do... except, as a kid, I didn't like it...

What would you call it then... growing up ? inheritance ? 
Or has my memory just dulled and I have chosen the path of convenience over the right one...

All of us change with time.. but am wondering if I'll suddenly realize one fine day, that I've turned into a person I don't like ! 

05 March, 2016

People

I like travelling... different places... different people... different food :)
Actually I revel in it...

By places, I don't necessarily mean globetrotting... even different streets of Delhi qualifies... because each nook and corner seems to have a species of homo sapiens specific to that latitude and longitude, with a food specialty too...

Chatting up with people is the perfect way to understand their ecosystem, and how they tick...

My latest sample space of human curios are Ola/Uber drivers, who seem to belong to varied sects/segments of society, from college students to part time workers to fleet operators.... each of them has a different story to tell... and different side of the coin....

27 February, 2016

News Today

In the last few years, especially the last five years, Media, especially in India, seems to have turned a new leaf. With the availability of 24 X 7 news channels to feed, and 24 pages to print, there is a growing strain on content. 

Terms like newsworthy and breaking news have been totally redefined, items and issues are openly plugged, without any scruples. When Gail Wynand openly accepted that he plugged an event or an issue, he was clear it was about circulation and making money. Now, all media personnel seem to have turned into the same Gail, atleast on paper.

The other issue, which has become a bigger problem nowadays is the lack of unbiased narrative reporting, as the events panned out. What was earlier restricted to the center-spread of the newspapers (and to add, well modulated by the editors) has now become what is common content. Everyone has an opinion (which they did earlier as well), and are happy to express it on first page and prime-time, where one would have wanted to understand what exactly happened, and not what the author "feels" happened. It has become impossible to get a first eye account of anything without various views in the mix.

It is time the Fourth Estate pulls up their socks and understands what is actually their job, and leave it to the reader/viewer to interpret it.

Last but not the least, the viewers/readers are equally to blame, since they have conveniently replaced the sitcoms they were used to with this format of masala news to entertain them.

Lets please draw a line between entertainment and news !!

16 February, 2016

Life

We fret over tiny things... we cry over minute issues...
And then we face the big one...

to realize it was all for nothing....
that all this strife was all for a peaceful life and a dignified death...

whatever we might do, we Will end up... in that small piece of land..